How to boost confidence – I don’t care what people think of me!!!
This is the key to being a confident person and the first step in how to boost confidence and build self esteem. Confident people don’t care what others think of them, they are happy in themselves and like who they are. Think about what you like about yourself, maybe even make a list. Are you funny? Are you passionate about your hobbies? Are you good at sports or gaming? Do you have a good job and earn good money? etc. At this stage you may not see anything in yourself that makes you happy but don’t worry something will reveal itself to you. Constantly reminding yourself about what you like about yourself helps boost your confidence and goes a long way to helping build self esteem.
I used to have no confidence and just couldn’t get to the bottom of what was causing it and really needed to boost confidence. At work, I was so low in confidence I used to fear meeting people who I’d previously interacted with in the corridor. I was afraid that if I said hello, they might ignore me and not say hello back. This fear was completely irrational! How often, when someone says hello do they not say hello back? Hardly ever. So why was I so scared of this and if it did happen why was it such a big deal. The answer is it isn’t a big deal at all. If you say hello to someone as you are passing, do it loudly, clearly and confidently. If they don’t say hello back, just think to yourself “whatever”, smile and walk on. Your confidence has to be managed in this way and you must constantly challenge yourself, to boost confidence affectively.
Another great way of dealing with having no confidence is to smile. I know it sounds stupidly simple but it really works, it’s the best way of hiding your lack of confidence. In the beginning it is all about hiding the fact you have no confidence. People with no confidence feel incredibly uncomfortable in any public or social situation, so the last thing they would ever do is smile. So smiling tells the world ‘hey, I’m comfortable and very happy being surrounded by people and having to interact. I am confident’. In the early stages of your quest to boost confidence and build self esteem, your main goal is to be perceived as confident. Once you are perceived as confident, you will notice peoples reaction towards you change and you will notice your reaction towards yourself change making you more confident.
You didn’t lose your confidence over night, you have gradually slipped into your self-aware shell over the years. You have programmed your brain to think “no one likes me”, “I am not good looking”, “why would anyone want to speak to me” etc. You need to re-program your brain so you can change your perception of yourself. Mental blocks that are embedded in the fabric of your mind stop you from acting on this advice and let your fear take over. For example, think of the situation were a cute girl takes your order in a diner. In this situation your brain may program you to immediately start to feel uncomfortable. Your reaction will be programmed to avoid eye contact and to quickly give your order so she will leave as soon as possible, so you can relax again. The girl will walk away thinking you are disinterested, not very friendly and ultimately forgettable. The re-programmed reaction we are aiming for would be to say hello, smile, make good eye contact and engage in some sort of conversation. The girl will walk away thinking “what a nice guy”, “that comment he made was funny”, “he was actually kind of cute”. If you are female reading this, reverse the roles it’s exactly the same. This is the social interaction we are aiming for and your brain should be automatically programmed to react in this way. The most affective way of removing these mental blocks is through hypnosis. Re-programming your un-concious mind to react differently to these situations through hypnosis, allows you to put into practise the techniques that I outline in my posts. It is easy to talk about thse techniques in theory but carrying them out is the hard part. Break free from the shackles of having no confidence and start your journey to a better more confident you today. For more information on hypnosis and for details of the best program available click here
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Steps on How to Build Self Esteem and Boost Confidence
Low self-esteem can be very difficult to live with and it can affect every part of your life: work, family, personal life, the list goes on and on. Even though they won’t say it, most people enjoy being around people with self-confidence, because they feel those good vibes will rub off on themselves. You can’t change how other people think of you, but you can change how you view yourself. So, if you have a low opinion of yourself, it’s time to make a change. It’s time to look for ways to boost confidence and start on the path to building self-esteem.
For people with no confidence, the easiest way to boost confidence is to act confidently. Yes, that’s it! The people around you won’t notice that you may still feel unsure of yourself, but acting confident goes a long way toward thinking confident. Don’t necessarily pretend to be someone you’re not, but think of your most confident version of yourself and act on it. In fact, think of the most confident people you know. What makes them so confident? Think of the traits that make them confident and use those.
Another easy way to go from having no confidence to building self-esteem is to talk to others about things that interest you. Find ways to talk about them and weave them into the conversation. This will put you more at ease in situations you may be uncomfortable in. The most important thing about building self esteem is to allow yourself to make mistakes. Those who lack self-confidence are usually afraid of making a mistake out of fear of looking bad in front of other people. Failure happens to everyone, and it can be a major blow to your confidence. But the best way to build confidence in yourself is to learn from those mistakes, overcome them, and try again. If you have self-esteem issues, the first step is to act like a confident person, because eventually you will become a confident person.
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